Meet Mel - Melanie Schilling

Melanie Schilling // Specialist in human behaviour and performance

She has built a 20 year career as a therapist, business consultant and leadership coach for high performing people.  A thought leader in  Confidence and Courage, Mel draws on her background in psychology, as well as stage and screen performance, to ensure her speaking and consulting engagements are highly informative, actionable (and always entertaining!)

Mel’s work with NAB led to the development of the successful Start Counting program, a workshop series to empower women to make smart life and money choices.  Her media presence has steadily built over the past decade, resulting in her becoming one of Australia’s highest profile psychologists.

As a speaker, Mel educates and entertains with her unique combination of science-backed research, light-hearted story-telling and interactive audience participation. She has graced the stage for organisations such as Business Chicks, Financial Executive Women, What Women Want, and earned her sea legs as she wobbled her way through a 5-part speaking series, The Thrive Series, onboard P&O Cruises.

Mel has appeared on Channel Nine’s Married At First Sight for the past five years, and 2020 will see her once again return to Australian and international screens.  Mel’s warm, yet direct style and colourful facial expressions have earned her a place in Australia’s heart.  Presenting a balanced approach with a clear feminist perspective, Mel has a reputation for asking the hard questions, making people accountable for their actions and shining the spotlight on gender politics in relationships.

Her depth of media experience spans TV (from full programs  to brief segments), radio, online content (video and written), print as well as brand ambassadorships for a selection of brands that align with her values.

This is where I get to share a little of my life with you (without all the professional speak).  

At slightly over 5 foot tall, I’m quite the tiny package and people often comment “oh you’re so much smaller than you seem on TV” when they meet me.  But I pack a whole lot of energy into this small frame and what I lack in height, I reckon I make up for in enthusiasm!

I believe in making a positive impact on people.  I like to think that after I leave an interaction with someone, they feel a little more bouyant, optimistic and confident than when we met.  As the wonderful Maya Angelou said “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel” and this is something I live by.

The most important lesson I have learned from my travels is (excuse the cliche) ‘Home is where the heart is’.  Now that I have my little family, it doesn’t matter where we are on the planet, as long as we are together, that’s home.  As a late-comer to the parenting game – I had Maddie via IVF at 42 – I’ve come to really value the love and connection of my tribe.  

I love nothing more than an intense workout (functional fitness and yoga are my favourites), an iced latte, some time to myself with my laptop, a chat with close friends and a glass of wine with my bloke.  The (not so) glamorous life in the media spotlight gives me a real buzz; I love the excitement of creating a show that challenges people’s beliefs and assumptions about relationships, and I really treasure the moments when I get to show the ‘real me’ as I confront bad behaviour or get caught on camera pulling faces.  I especially enjoy the privilege of being one of the first therapists on Australian TV, a responsibility that I take very seriously. And, who can argue with a red carpet walking, champagne-sipping evening at The Logies each year…?

But, when I’m at home with my family and friends, it’s a glam-free zone.  I’m a fresh faced, Mum-bun kinda girl and you’ll probably find me doing a grocery shop or pawing over my laptop in a cafe.   As a family, we do our best to juggle our life, my consulting and media commitments in Australia and my hubby, Gareth’s business interests in the UK and USA.  We don’t always get it right and I’m only too familiar with the feelings of ‘Mummy Guilt’ but we are learning.

In 2018, we were married in Bali and it counts as one of the finest moments in my life.  I’m so grateful for what I have and excited about the future.